We’re all connected, no matter where we are.

We’re all connected. No matter how independent we may think we are, we have connections that impact us on our journey in this world which we can be both barely, and very, aware of. Everything we do touches someone or something else.  

Recently, via Speak Up For Women NZ, I sponsored a young woman to do a six week ‘Introduction to Feminism’ live webinar course facilitated by The Centre for Feminist Thought (UK). Due to the time zone differences, it was a bit of a tricky time for a young woman in New Zealand to attend. However, we still received a wonderful, and successful, application from a young woman who works for GEE Nepal, an organisation that helps vulnerable and disadvantaged girls in Nepal.

As the successful applicant stated, it is important to be able to teach these girls how to empower themselves and other girls. Nepalese girls are very often subsumed by an unkind, and sometimes cruel, patriarchal society, and have no concept of how to centre or stand up for themselves. She considered that learning about feminism would enable her to pass the knowledge onto her girls in Nepal in a coherent and educational manner that would help them.

The two courses that The Centre for Feminist Thought teaches lean towards second-wave feminism in content. They eschew modern university-style Gender Studies, as those courses tend to have too much focus on theories and philosophy, and the idea that being a woman is just a concept in one’s head, rather than focusing what’s real for women in the material world¹. Theories, philosophies and concepts such as those taught in Gender Studies are of very little use to women in real life – and are actually causing some social issues now – and are of no use at all to girls like those in Nepal.

After our successful applicant had completed The Centre for Feminist Thought’s course, she wrote a very captivating synopsis on it, as below. Now, in a very, very miniscule way, I feel a connection to those girls in Nepal 🙂

Here’s our young woman’s story –

“I want to extend my gratitude to the team at Speak Up For Women for giving me the opportunity to attend the Introduction to Feminism Course, hosted by the Centre of Feminist Thought. Having previously called myself a self-proclaimed feminist, I was naturally drawn to this course. I also wanted to have a deeper, personal understanding of the term and learn how I might then be able to apply this deeper understanding to the advocacy work I am involved with at GEE (Girls Empowered through Education) Nepal. Our vision at GEE Nepal is to provide young girls with educational opportunities, and to uplift them in a time and place where trafficking and poverty are significant influences. In the future, we aim to increase the number of girls graduating from secondary school and expand our offerings to have a greater impact in Nepal. We do this by providing vulnerable girls in Nepal with education scholarships so that they can pursue goals and opportunities that they otherwise couldn’t achieve.

Since being actively involved in this field of work, I have had a growing understanding of the impact of a patriarchal society on women and their often inability to truly thrive and flourish in such a social construct, especially in developing nations. One aspect of the course explored patriarchy- its theory and origins as well as the power and control that it resembles in a social context. Here I learnt that patriarchy effects all women and we all face some form of oppression whether we are aware of it or not. This was a really challenging observation for me because I felt I had been blinded to the reality of this, thinking that we were unaffected by this in the Western World. When in fact, I learnt that patriarchy is more subtle and therefore harder to recognise in our societies. This especially emphasised to me that it is so important for Feminists to unite and work together to make a change globally.

Early in the course we also explored the ‘waves’ of feminism, liberal feminism and feminism as a ‘civil rights’ project. What struck me most in this section was the issues of the tension between ‘equality’ and ‘difference’ in feminism. This part of the course impacted me in a personal way and challenged the way that I thought about Feminism because for so long I thought that the end goal was equality with men. However, I quickly learnt that the issue with this goal is symbolic of a system that would still be centred around men – doing life by the ‘male model’ as this is already dominant in society. The term ‘difference’ however, challenges feminists to acknowledge the importance of political activity and generational change in families to explore what a universal female subject might look like. This in fact sums up a radical feminist perspective which is to re-shape the world to hold women’s way of living more fully.

As women who all came from very different backgrounds, some working for large Global Feminist organisations and others pursuing careers that were traditionally seen as ‘male jobs’ such as electricians and engineers; it was incredible to be able to reflect on the relevance of the course material to our current situations. We all completed this course with a much richer, deeper understanding of Feminism, specifically radical feminism and found this to be beneficial not only in a professional context, but in a personal one too. For me, it made me reflect on the kind of mother I want to be for my future children and the importance of mothering for the future of the Feminist movement. Given that we have literally been given the gift of producing life. At GEE, we talk about the ripple of effect of a young girl being educated as she will grow up to be an educated mother who will raise educated children, which will then someday produce an educated community. I believe this is the same for Feminism and I look forward to being part of the change that together we can create in the world for women. “

About Us – Speak Up For Women

Introduction to Feminism | The Centre for Feminist Thought (feminist-thought.org)

About Us — GEE Nepal

¹Disclaimer: I haven’t done the Gender Studies course at university, but base my comments on those who have.

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9 thoughts on “We’re all connected, no matter where we are.

  1. Sue Townsend

    Excellent work. Yes, we are all connected in a very profound way. Although there are many good things about an ethos that emphasises the importance of the individual, there is a danger in pushing that philosophy too far. Interesting comment about gender studies too. I am open minded by and large, but I’m not yet convinced that we are paddling in the right direction.

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    1. I believe that the old ‘Women’s Studies’ was far superior to today’s Gender Studies which replaced it. However, once again I am only going by what others say, but judging from the ideas I hear now about sex and sexuality, I’m inclined to believe it. We seem to have veered too far from our material reality at the moment, and there are those trying to make the world fit the theories they’ve learned, rather than the other way round.

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      1. Sue Townsend

        I did Women’s Studies at Canterbury in the late 70s and early 80s with some wonderful women academics. I really thought at that time that we were witnessing the dawn of a new world – one where women and other patriarchally oppressed groups would finally be seen and valued as human beings. But somewhere along the way we’ve lost track of what’s real and important. Now all that matters is that we be allowed to indulge our fantasies about who or what we wish to believe we are.

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      2. I didn’t go to uni, and wasn’t at the forefront of fighting for women’s rights. I was more of an advocate, but thought I’d ‘hung my boots’ up regardless. Who’da thought we’d have to come back into the fray to save what we’d won all that time ago. I live in ChCh – is that where you are, too, or have you moved away now?


  2. What a great thing to do. I’m glad someone was able to attend. It sounds like she got a lot out of it. The new focus on gender is nonsense. Gender stereotypes are oppressive and many women regard them as sexist. It feels like we’ve gone back to a pre-1950s time.

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  3. sptownsend

    I’ve stayed in Christchurch. I came across your blog from Ruth Gardner’s and I’m interested to find that there are other people out there who have reservations about the current gender paradigm. I am a left leaning creature but find myself going against the grain with a lot of the current thinking. I thought perhaps I’m just becoming a grumpy old woman, but I don’t think it’s entirely that. I do believe there have always been men who have been drawn to live their lives as women, and there definitely are people who are on an intersex spectrum due to ambiguous genitalia etc. I am 100% committed to the idea that everybody should be free to live without discrimination despite their appearance, but I’m suspicious of the swathes of people, especially young people, who are deciding that they are a different ‘gender’ in the absence of any reason other than feelings. I have some theories about whey this is happening so much – I think they are trying to fix a problem with the wrong solution. I may be wrong, of course, but it does concern me.

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    1. You’re not alone Sue. There’s a small group of us in Christchurch who’ve met through Speak Up For Women who are in alignment with your thinking. Shall I flick you an email using the address that came up when you started following my blog? Maybe we can catch up for a chat, too? It’s always nice to connect with like-minded people 🙂


      1. sptownsend

        Yes, it would be good to meet up. I have my last day of work today, and go back on Monday 10 January, so while I’m off work would be ideal. Does that work for you?

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