Ladies and gentlemen of Ireland, you did us proud. For those ladies and gentlemen who still might not get it, here’s the message – if it’s not your uterus, then keep quiet with your anti-abortion opinions. Have opinions by all means, that’s your right, but keep them to yourselves. Apart from other anti-abortionists, no-one wants to hear you.
Ladies, those of you who publicly gang up against your sisters, and sell out to the patriarchal ideology of not allowing women to have sovereignty over their own bodies, stop it. Another woman’s uterus is not your business, nor anyone else’s business, unless she invites you to make it your business. Remember back when women were owned body, mind, and soul by fathers, husbands, or brothers? It really wasn’t that much fun, so why would we want other women to take over now from where they left off?
Men, you simply have no right to tell women what they should and shouldn’t do with their uteri. That’s where it should end. However, for those who might have missed the memo, women are no longer men’s legal property. We are people in our own right, with or without a man, and our bodies belong to us, just as yours belong to you. You have, and always have had, the luxury of either caring about what goes on in a woman’s uterus, or not caring. You can simply choose to care, or not to care; to walk away, or stay. It’s your biological luxury. Women have no such luxury, and will never have that luxury under ordinary circumstances. What they do have is the biological prerogative to decide whether they want to use their uteri to grow foetuses, or not. If you are in a relationship with a woman, and you are invited to share in the decision-making process, that’s great. However, having a uterus does not imply there is an obligation to let a foetus form in it. It’s an option, not an obligation.
However, guys, you still have some say and control over this whole conception business. You also have the option to not be careless about allowing a foetus to form. Here’s a thought – instead of those of you (and this includes the ladies) who are anti-abortion screaming about women being under some sort of stranger-imposed obligation to grow a foetus to full term, how about putting your energy into screaming about men taking responsibility for their ejaculations? After all, that’s where it all starts. If you want to ensure that uncontrolled sperm don’t lead a woman into the ‘sin’ of abortion, then put your efforts into ranting at men to constrain or contain it, and then everyone stays out of trouble. Less irresponsible ejaculation = less abortion. See the equation there?
Maybe those who are anti-abortion could also protest outside bars and nightclubs where young men gather? Wave your placards in their faces, call them hideous names, and threaten them with harm, because you can guarantee that some of them will be ejaculating irresponsibly that night, and a foetus may get aborted as a result. But you won’t do that, will you? It’s a bit risky to take on men, unlike the softer target of women. The men might break your placards over your head, punch you in the nose, and push you over. They won’t stand for you telling them what they can and can’t do with their own bodies. Nah, better stick to making women’s lives miserable – much safer for you.
So, some of you ladies and gentlemen have a moral objection to abortion, eh? You endow a foetus with all sorts of reasons as to why it’s more important than the fully-formed, living, breathing, woman whose uterus it’s inhabiting. Fine, have your opinions and beliefs – you’re entitled to that freedom. Just don’t try and make them other people’s opinions and beliefs. Although those beliefs might feel like incontestable facts, they aren’t – they are just stories that you happen to believe. Stop harming women’s freedom to have sovereignty over their own bodies with antiquated laws based on your opinions, beliefs, and moral objections. Do not diminish women into having fewer rights than a foetus.
How did women end up being burdened with these rules of morality, anyway? Seems to me that patriarchy did a real number on us. It made women the moral gatekeepers, because men didn’t want that shitty job, and women are easier to boss around and make do as they’re told. Then patriarchy decided to really f**k with us, and made it okay for men to do their utmost to get women to break the moral rules, and if they did, it wouldn’t be men’s fault. The wages of moral sin were the women’s to bear. Mwah-ha-ha-ha! However, if the man she sinned with happened to be decent, she was saved. Otherwise, men’s sins were invisible, because their bellies didn’t blow up in everyone’s faces. Then – and this is the REALLY good bit – “We’ll make it that a foetus is more important than a woman. In fact, we’ll say it’s a crime to not carry a foetus to full term, because …um….oh yes, how’s this – sanctity of human life, and God and all that. You know, we should have a hierarchy for sanctity of life. Let’s think – men first, then foetuses, and lastly women. We’ll leave guns and wars out of it this sanctity of life business, though, because there’s good money to be made from those. Everyone agree? Good, done”. Doesn’t seem too bad if you’re a man, eh? But, in fact, extreme patriarchal ideologies of any sort only benefit a handful of people – the rest of us, both women and men, suffer from them.
Women have abortions for a variety of reasons that are often complex and fraught with anguish, and not because they decide they’ll do that today instead of catching up with the girls for a few drinkies. There really are more fun things they could be doing on their day off. Believing that it’s okay to force a woman to grow a foetus into a child, and then bring it into the world for the sake of appeasing your personal anti-abortion opinions and beliefs, is anti-human. Knock it off. A woman is a person of the world first and foremost, not simply a vessel for reproduction. Her rights and prerogatives come before that of a foetus. If she wants to use her uterus to grow a foetus into a child, that’s her choice – if she doesn’t, that’s also her choice. For everyone else, if in doubt, the only thing we have to remember is that if it’s not our uterus, and we’re not invited to talk, then we shut up. Easy.